During the final months of my dad’s life, I learned that God takes care of you even when you think he isn’t taking care of you.
There were many prayers for my dad, and myself, that went unanswered. Prayers for his healing, prayers for his ease of mind, prayers for an easier situation for my dad, as well as for my mom and my sister and I. Those prayers seemed to go unanswered.
But all around the situation seemed to be evidence of God’s care for us in profound ways.
One such incident occurred the day I returned to work after a few days of helping my Mom care for my dad. These few days were some of the lowest points in the slow awful process of his cancer. He had become non-communicative and his attempts to walk and conduct just the most routine of movements had become almost impossible. We were forced to start looking at options for care outside of our own capabilities.
I was beat down and frustrated and helpless. Still, I had to work and fulfill my duties of my job.
A computer in our area was not logging on correctly and the usual fix was to climb underneath the computer station and start to mess with the chords. As I was doing this, I noticed something out of the corner of my eye. I saw that it was a torn out piece of paper with some words on it. I figured it was just trash and would quickly discard it. But, I did take a look at the writing and noticed these words:
“Cast all of your worries on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7
Who knows how long that piece of paper had sat there, maybe weeks or maybe even months before I found it. And for me to find it at one of the lowest points of one of the lowest moments of my life was no mere coincidence or good luck. God was providing for me, was encouraging me, and was reassuring me of his great care.
When my dad died, my wife was out of the country on a mission trip. The care and love that she received from the local believers in Zambia demonstrated that God’s love and provision is available half way around the world. The day he died, 22 girls at a Girl’s Retreat, which my wife help lead, sought and received Christ’s gift of salvation.
In the absence of my wife and her present support, three of the staff members of our church drove 170 miles to attend the funeral. Also, three colleagues at work made a similar trip to demonstrate concern, compassion, and support. Two of my longest and dearest friendships were represented and found me before the funeral to bring me encouragement and comfort.
I could go on and on in demonstrating how God was present and moving during this time.
Sometimes, as we look for God’s big miracles we miss all of the thousands of little miracles all around us. My dad was lost to us too early and under great strain and suffering. There is no denying the awfulness of his disease and what it did to his mind and body. I don’t understand why it was necessary for him to go through all of that and why we had to watch it happen. But in spite of that grim reality, I saw God work. I felt God’s comfort. I experienced God’s provision. I tasted his goodness. God was with me and with my family and with my wife. He never abandoned us.
“What’s lost is nothing to what’s found, and all the death that ever was, set next to life, would scarcely fill a cup.”
—Frederick Buechner, Godric, 96.
Ultimate healing is to be at home with Jesus.
Thank you for sharing your observations and experiences during this trying time.
Thanks for reading Mary
I have learned over the years that God allows us to see the awful to realize the precious. And to know our need to come and cling to him.
Thank you for sharing and being openly vulnerable. It’s been a real support in the walk on earth and reminds that this isn’t our home.
My heart grieves with you as you miss your earthly father’s presence. It will be a wonderful day when we awaken to rejoice in reuniting forever with our Lord and our family and friends. Can’t wait to see Sharon!
Thanks Janet. I appreciate these words.
I am so sorry that you and family suffered yet I rejoice that Spirit’s gift were recognised, and gave comfort, i am thankful also that you were open to be an instrument of additional comfort to others by your sweet writing about this experience, I pray for continued blessings for you and family, and I give prayer of thanksgiving for the way you touched my heart.
Thank you Pam